So I (30m bear) have messed around a few times with a guy (23m twink/otter) and we’re kinda becoming friends with benefits.

I don’t think I’m like super ugly, but bears are definitely not what guys go for around here, so it’s been a nice change to have a guy I find attractive actually find me attractive back. What I’m needing some advice on is twofold:

1. Getting fucked
2. Kink play

I’m a service top (think sub but also a top) but I’ve taken a few cocks before. The first time he and I hooked up I let him fuck me, but that was with the help of a lot of numbing lube. He’s rather large—about 7.5 and decently girthy. So part of me wanting to service him is wanting to flip fuck like he wants. Do you guys have any recommendations for bigger guys like me on how to take him without using that lube? It didn’t hurt when I used it the last time, but I also couldn’t really feel anything else either. I’ve read through a lot about the standards of getting fucked, but didn’t know if there was anything more specific for bears.

Secondly, since we’re getting more comfortable with each other, I’m wanting to indulge a bit into some of his kinks. I’m not much of a kink person (apart from having a guy fully sit on my face), so I’m open to it. He’s into water sports, farting, and being used as a chair. We talked a bit about each of them, such as maybe pissing inside each other or me farting when he rims me. But other than that or pissing on each other, what else is there?

Any advice would be very useful and helpful. We’re hopefully going to get to spend the night together tomorrow and mess around quite a bit, so some ideas would be great too!