In my twenties I realized dating in the gay community was a lot more sex oriented than committed relationship than I met my fiancé. We been together for 10 years and twice he got drunk and start touching one of friends bulge and he start grabbing a person ass at a Halloween party.

Of course, i was pissed but shockingly our friends brush it off like it wasn’t a big deal. My spouse didn’t recall doing it but felt really bad but didn’t seem to shock about the incident. I asked in a drunken situation like that, would you be mad. He looked at me and said no…” I just touch someone bugle and ass” and not like i was kissing them.

There are times I wanted to do it but never got the courage because i feel like it is cheating.

The past couple years, this guy at my gym would flirt aggressively but given a big smirk while I walk pass his locker than slowly a nod and a huge smile. I never paid him no mind BECAUSE i am in a relationship.

Now I having these naughty thoughts of just feeling his abs, arms and bugle but fear it will become more than that. The more I think about it, I realized we only see each other in the locker room not like anything will happened if I introduced myself.

Over the years, he is one of those guys that don’t cruise but work out and shower than leaves. He always smiles and looked at me lustfully as I try to avoid him.

Do you think I am over exaggerating about my spouse drunken mishap?

Do you think I am overthinking the possibilities of something will happened if introduce myself to this sexy guy?

Do you think it is wrong if things go well that I touch his abs or arms is not like cheating ? I know it’s not but mentally I want to touch his ass and bugle just knowing my guilty conscience won’t guilt me of cheating?