Hello Over the years I’ve realize I do a lot better on tinder/ dating apps then like Grindr/ hook up apps.

I can get a date with an attractive guy that is my type with prospects of dating fairly easily. I think I can carry a conversation and I seem to intrigue men enough to want a second date or more. Usually these end up being non sexual because they want to wait a few dates to have sex.

But for the life of me, I can’t find guys that I’m attracted to just have NSA hook sex with me. Or I’ll be chatting with a prospective hook up and then they just stop replying when it comes to setting up a play time. Sometimes I just want to play with no strings.

So my question is: Is it possible that I’m the guy you date, but not fool around with?

Which is more important to you? Being able to get dates or have nsa fun?

Advice on how I can change this about myself?