One thing I've noticed about a lot of gay men is how confident they are. I totally get that when the world is pushing against you, responding with full confidence and walking to the beat of your drum is one of the best things you can do for yourself. I've been trying to raise my self-esteem and really embrace myself as I am and celebrate my identity the way thousands of gay bros have done and continue to do.

The biggest thing holding me back from fully embracing myself is the fear of turning arrogant. I was raised by a very narcissistic mother who projected her arrogance/insecurities as confidence, and it's always muddied my sense of when confidence becomes too boastful.

I've always been kinda intimidated by how strong the confidence of a lot of gay men is. While I'd brush them off as arrogant in the past, I realize that l was doing so to make my insecure self feel better. To me, the big difference is confident people don't put others down for their confidence, aren't intimidated by the confidence of others, and keep an open mind. I figure the best way to gain insight is to ask the community itself, so I'm curious about people's journeys with self confidence as a gay bro and how to maintain a healthy level or self love.