I’m a bear into slim/skinny guys who are into bigger guys only. I am not into other bears, chubby guys, body builder types, etc. Its not that I don’t think that they are hot to others, they certainly are and I appreciate the guys who appreciate us. I just do not find them attractive at all.

I put the type I’m looking for in my hookup app profiles, but I still get mostly bears messaging me. This takes up a lot of time and is very distracting to me since most of the people messaging me are guys I’m not into and have zero chance. Sometimes I also have to figure what they are since they don’t initially say what they are.

I know some guys don’t read profiles and there’s nothing I can do about that, but is it ok to put that I’m not into bears, etc on my profile? I don’t feel it’s coming from some kind of toxic masculinity (ie no fats, fems, asians), but I feel like it saves both me and the others persons time to know I’m not into them.

Thoughts?

EDIT: I’m not looking for judgement on my preferences. I understand that it seems hypocritical, but I don’t really care that you find it that way. My boyfriend is a skinny twink and I don’t have a problem finding skinny guys into me, so I think I’m doing just fine. I just have a lot of bigger guys into me too.