Me and my bf (22 and 21) are together for four years now. It’s an amazing relationship and we communicate really honest, venerable and empathic about almost everything. Almost. Because when we get to the kinky stuff or sexual fantasies topic, we’re kinda hesitant, or maybe even secretive. I started that conversation multiple times and we always have a pretty good talk, concluding we need to be more open and assertive in bed or in the conversations about sex. I have this thing for jockstraps and hot briefs and as he’s hot as fuck they suit him very good. I once bought him and myself some cheap jockstraps which turned me on badly when he wore them. He knows I like it, but doesn’t actively try to turn me on with them himself. I don’t take that as an offence, but it’s not very good for my confidence to do something like that again. But I really wanna try again, to lift up our sex life and he once told me - maybe even more than a year ago - that he thinks those leather harnesses are pretty hot and he would like to try one. That happened before the jockstraps, so after that, I didn’t dare to get him a nice hot harness. I’m scared he’ll be uncomfortable with me buying it as a surprise, but when I say I would really want him to take the next step by buying something sexy l, he never does. I know he enjoys it when he’s used to the idea of him being someone that likes these things, but I don’t know how to act in a way he won’t reject it before trying. Any thoughts on my problem? Or do you have similar struggles with uplifting ur sex life?