Hi... so I (28) met this guy (30) not long ago. I hardly ever feel strongly for guys I date, but when I do, I really feel it. We both felt a wonderful connection and instead of fucking we ended up going on a date, and then another and another. The thing is that he says he really likes me but wants to take things slow and flow (which I understand) but apparently that means that we can't plan dates, that it has to be random when time allows.

I say he's a good guy because he's family oriented, focused on his job, when we're together it really is magical and from time to time he does text me and asks how my day's going... but when we're not, he can be dismissive through text and won't commit to times and dates. I mean, even though he had "good excuses" he was late for our last three dates (very, very late).

I'm an anxious guy, this uncertainty is really affecting me, and I'm not going to be the intense guy chasing him all the time. I can ask one or two times if they want to meet, but not to the point of overwhelming someone.

Am I idealizing him? Or am I the one in the wrong? I really can't tell. The only reason I'm still talking to him is that I don't want to throw away a chance with a good guy just because I couldn't get a hold of my anxiety.

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TL;DR: Met a guy who is really nice in person, but a flaky when it comes to plan dates. He says he really likes me but wants to take things slow. Don't know if I'm idealizing him and don't want to give him up just because I couldn't handle my anxiety.