I’ve finally come to the realization that I am Bi, swinging towards men, and recently have been meeting up with this sexy older man(34m) that I (20m) matched with on Tinder. We have been talking for a few months are really into each other and this is the first time I’ve been with a man.

The trouble I’ve been having is that I can’t cum when I meet up with him. We’ve met up twice. The first time of him blowing me and jerking each other off, he cummed over me but I could not cum at all. We both say it’s my nerves and anxiety since it’s my first time with a man and go out separate ways.

The second time he had just gotten off night shift and he offers to blow me and more… we both blow each other, make out, I played with his ass, and he even rode my dick for awhile. He was on the verge of cumming for awhile, but I could not get close to cumming at all. He says that he needs to get some rest, I offer to make him cum but he said if I wouldn’t cum, he shouldn’t either. I end up leaving, both of us blueballed.

I’ve been feeling bad that I couldn’t cum at all for him twice and feel like he’s been pushing me off. I texted him saying I still feel bad for the other day, and he mentioned it was kind of a downer, me not being able to cum. Just feel like a disappointment right now.

Anybody else with this issue? What can I do / change to help? Advise is appreciated.