When I first moved to the city, I was a lot more outgoing, and willing to put in the effort making new friends(going to events, trying to talk to strangers, initiating hanging out and inviting people to doing stuff)

But after a few years, I started to come to the realization that most people in this city(maybe all the big cities), simply don’t want or have any space for new friends in their life. I could invite people that I try to be friends with to so many things but rarely got invited back(probably it’s me?). I rarely felt that people put in much effort if any making new friends. And I never really feel they will have my back in any ways, even after knowing some people for years.

After work, most people spend time with their SO and families or friends that they have known for years. I know it’s tough to make friends in general, but it’s much tougher when there isn’t even a desire there to make new friends. I also understand the reason, what values does making new friends even bring to your life? I used to value friendship a lot more, but after a few failed attempts and fallen out friendships, I’m starting to become someone who generally doesn’t want to make new friends(at least for now)

Do you agree? I have basically given up knowing that whatever effort I put into will be in vain. I have talked to the people that I know in other cities, I often heard a different experiences where when you go out to bar, events etc, it feels people are genuinely interested in talking to strangers and wanting new friends.