I wouldn't mind hearing feedback on how to handle this situation that occurs often with my wife and me. She'll say something rude or degrading towards me. Maybe its for something stupid I said or did, maybe I didn't do the dishes or something. I'm not perfect, I make mistakes, whatever.

More often than not it's something that's not a big deal. But she makes remarks to me that are downright rude and disrespectful. So in return I tell her not to talk to me like that, or tell her why she shouldn't be pissed off over it because I had good intentions, and its not a big deal.

In return because I showed frustration towards her, she talks shit calls me a dick, idiot, etc . Will scream so neighbors can hear or even call my parents to say I'm doing something extremely exaggerated.

I tell her to dont talk to me like that and to take a hike and go to her mom's, which escalates things further. Into a shit talking match until I leave. She'll then follow me around yelling at me all the way to my car as I leave then call my phone non-stop until I turn it off. ( I'm self employed run my business with so it's really big deal )

Hours later she'll calm down and will apologize but she of course says she didn't say it rudely, and I'm hearing things. How can I possibly win in this situation? This happens regularly, over something different but goes the exact same way each time. Any advice appreciated.

What's making it most difficult for me to leave is we have a son together and he's best thing in my life right now. Her favorite thing to do is take him from me until im basically forced to forgive her.