40yr old male/female with two kids under 8yrs.

So last night about 5:30pm I am making dinner(really behind schedule for a Sunday). We usually eat around 5pm. I have two meals going...one for Sunday and one for Monday. The wife comes in and ask me to hang some pictures in the kitchen that fell down a week ago. Honestly they were out-of-sight/out- of-mind for me. I tell her I will do it after I am done with dinner. She leaves the kitchen.

About 20mins later she comes back in the kitchen and ask me to give our son a bath and wash his hair (he has a LOT of hair and someone has to wash it). Mind you I am still making dinner. With a smile, I ask her in which sequence she would like me to cook dinner, hang pictures and wash our sons hair. I know...passive aggressive, but fuck.

She loses her shit. "You are selfish...dont care about me.....vomit...vomit...vomit" " I do all the hard work (laundry and scrubbing) around the house (btw she is a SAHM)". "You never want to do anything for me...."

We have it out for a bit. She hangs the pictures and washes our sons hair. A bed time I was surprised that she snuggled with me. This morning was a standard kiss on my way out the door.

I know my response was passive aggressive, but was wondering how yu guys would have responded. Obviously we were behind our family schedule that day which led to the super stressful evening - which I take responsibility for. Thoughts on course correction?