So took the wife out to dinner for an early Valentine's date. Got a sitter for the kids, had dinner (was good) and took her to an spot in the hills overlooking the city and bay (beautiful spot), and brought wine and chocolates. We eat and chatted - nothing sexual (on my part or her's, and it was not expected).

We get home and she throws on a head rag, long pj's and some thick ass socks. As I walk into the bedroom our eyes lock and she give me a look like "I know I look shitty...but it' s just you, so....smile ....). we had an exchange a while back where I called her "grandma" when she did this before. I don't say shit. I don't give her a damming look, I just continue on my way.

I change clothes in the bedroom. She calls out from the living room...."are you going to cuddle with me on the couch?". I am not really mad and don't want to appear that way, so I ask her if she wants a glass of wine (yes) and I take it to her. I sit on the couch and she has made a cocoon of her blanket and makes no attempt to actually cuddle with me. We make some small talk. I sit and drink my wine and after about 10 minutes while she taps away on her computer, I leave and head for the bedroom. There is no reason for me to be in her presence.

She comes into the bedroom eventually and peeks at me (I am reading Esquire) and is visually annoyed since I left her on the couch. So no argument....just silence from us both at this point.

Thoughts? I don't really have a "cover contract" here. I am not expecting "transactional sex" for a dinner/date, but fuck...there is like ZERO effort on her part. If we were dating - she would be tossed to the curb. What would you guys do in this situation? I think I need to up the dread and SMV as it looks like no fucks are given on her end.

EDIT Gentlemen - thanks for the comments. My real question is at what point does your wife chase you again? Never? I could have had sex on Sunday night but sometimes I want to be met half way. Hell I did not even really want sex (had sex the day before). I game her, I do kino and I am in shape. We have a good sex life and most things are on the table and I know how to get it - when I really want it. But, there was a point where it was her chasing me. She was rubbing my dick under the dinner table. She was taking me out to fuck in the woods.

My wife used to give a fuck. When we dated I never had to ask her to dress sexy - she did it to please me. As dumb as I was in college, I had multle women showing interest in me - with little to no effort on my part.

So, my answer to myself is to up my SMV and Dread. If the response is not appropriate - I have some decisions to make.