TL;DR

Wife half of new acquaintances has been flirting thru texts, wants to meet (all four) for dinner. How to maintain frame, or brush them off.

*Back story as concise as possible. *

Out on a long overnight date night, strike up friendly conversation with another couple. Said it would be fun to see them again, but neglected to exchange info. Due to my work (which I mentioned), they tracked me down and we've (specifically the other wife and I) been messaging/texting a bit, the other wife is quite flirty. They want to meet up for dinner this weekend. It would be a little bit of a stretch for us with sitters and all, but we could probably make it work if we had to.

I know that flirting with the wife around can show RP satus, and I am, indeed, a naturally outgoing and flirty guy, and have benefitted from being such, both from the wife, and just being a comfortable, complimentary guy to be around. The catch is the my wife is necessarily seeing the little bit of flirting going on through text, or this other lady essentially digging on me a bit. The other wife has said her husband is in the loop about the possible plans.

At this point telling the wife that I want to hit dinner with them and that the other wife and I have been texting may be awkward. I can't tell if I'm being my normal self or being weirdly secretive.

RP Clarification -

I like being friendly and, if the situation is appropriate, flirty as well. I recharge a bit more by being around coo people, and these people we have some decent things in common as far as age, marriage, and kids. Seemed like cool people. Am I being a little of an attention whore for text/flirting with this lady, and then expecting to meet? Is text flirting cool with other women (I've found it weirdly good practice for AA & while not having much skin in the game, it seriousy doesn't matter if this chick likes me or not.)

Am I just stroking my own ego here? Am I being dishonest? Does it fucking matter?

Redpilling for about a year now...all to really really solid results, a pretty good way through the sidebar, but not every last one. Happy to elaborate more, but have to get back to work for now.