I feel like people in the western world often talk about the nuclear family, with the man as the primary breadwinner and the woman as the homemaker. It's not a myth either. It's a fact of life: What's with all the 'families used to only need one income' misinformation being spread everywhere? : r/TwoXChromosomes

I once had an elderly female white co-worker, and we were talking about our past. When she graduated from high school, she went on to become a mother because 'that's what you did after high school'.

The Boomers did have it easier in terms of upward mobility. Now it's not the case anymore.

People blame neo-liberalism. People blame capitalism. People blame themselves. People blame women. People blame immigrants.

Funnily enough, I cannot really relate to it . . . because all of my ancestors lived out their whole lives in China, not America or any part of the western world, not even Japan. And for the vast majority of female relatives, they worked for a living. They weren't housewives.

As far as I know, my grandmothers worked. My mother worked. My aunts worked. My female cousins worked. None of them were housewives.

There was this documentary on Chinese take-away kids (https://youtu.be/Ii9o8B\_9sXo?si=n72hrSvQn0CfWzAZ). Long story short: the women worked in the Chinese restaurants alongside their husbands and the family got their kids to help out. One guy's dad was actually a tradesman in China, but couldn't find work, so well, he got into the Chinese restaurant industry too. One kid was aware of the racial undertones of the prank phone calls, but his parents just thought the kids were being kids. So, in some ways, he had to grow up fast and be the adult. The immigrant women weren't housewives.

And yet, Asian women are perceived by western men as being very feminine, especially East Asian and Southeast Asian women. https://youtu.be/Cv9jDoaJmYA?si=hKloNLZmZ2g5hAQ0 (Passport Bros)

Personally, I think some Asian women really want to become housewives. They don't have to deal with the stresses of work and the boss. They may find cooking, cleaning, childrearing much more manageable. And if a foreign guy can provide that, they decide to take on the chance. They may face workplace discrimination too, and they think they are better off as a housewife than working at a soul-sucking job. And these Asian women just happen to be what some western/foreign men want to see in a woman. So, I think it is kind of self-selective. Asian women who are more professionally successful and career-minded will just hire a babysitter or invite over the parents/parents-in-law to help out. Some Asian women may be well-educated, skilled, but once pregnant, they give birth and all of a sudden, they get out of the workplace, and once out, they are no longer competitive. So, they become housewives unintentionally.

I think that is what really happens. For some western men, they just see a woman that fits their expectations of what a woman should be.