Looking for some advice… I’ve been in a relationship with my s/o for 6 months, They told me early on they were Demisexual/asexual and was still figuring it out. I completely understand/understood and was absolutely ok. I, myself, am a Highly sexual person, however I don’t mind taking care of it myself, in fact I may prefer it. Regardless, I’m a first for my S/o and it’s not the other way around, About 3 months into our relationship they wanted to try some things, and while I’ve always paused and ask if it was still ok or if they felt uncomfortable and affirmed them that none of it was expected in our relationship. I am HEAVY on after care as well. After our most recent interaction, they felt very overstimulated, I turned off all the lights and just held them for a few hours.

They believe that I need to be in a relationship where all my ‘needs’ are met and they want to be able to give all that.

Even though i’ve stated that sex/sexual things were not needs in a relationship, I think they feel the need to be sexual :(

How can I affirm them? What can I say and understand to best help them feel comfortable and know that accept and love them?