Hi all, sorry in advance, I may go into information that some would consider TMI. Also I want to state off the bat that I understand that labels are not the be-all end-all and that I am comfortable with who I am, I'm more just curious to hear your thoughts, and it would be nice to have a more concise way of explaining what I feel. Oh, and just for context I am a 30 year old cis-male.

Ever since I became aware of the term about 10 years ago, I've identified myself as Demi-Bisexual. It made sense to me, I never really felt sexual attraction to anyone except for my partners when we were dating. But recently, having been single for several years now, I had a strong desire to experience sex again, and decided to use a hookup site to meet up with someone for a one night stand. It went well, and I was satisfied with the encounter, with no real desire to meet with them again. But it made me think about my past relationships and sexual desires, and I realized that even with my partners, I never really had any sexual attraction towards them, but to the idea of having sex itself.

Now don't get me wrong, I loved my partners, I think they're beautiful, and a very important aspect of sex to me is pleasing my partner as well as myself. But I was never actually sexually aroused by them or their bodies. It was the concept of having sex that turned me on, and this revelation has somewhat thrown me for a loop and made me rethink some things I had taken for granted. I'm wondering now if Demisexual is really the right term for me, or if there is a term out there that better describes me and my relationship with sex.

All that being said, I'd like to list out some characteristics of myself to give an overview and see what everyone thinks:

• I tend to be more aesthetically attracted to men than women, though I have had more women partners than men
• I sometimes fantasize about having sex with people I find aesthetically attractive, but I usually have no desire to actually have sex with them
• I have what I and my partners and friends consider to be a pretty high libido and masturbate often
• I primarily watch gay male porn (Honestly just seems better written, acted, and more passionate than straight or lesbian porn)
• I do still desire to have sex specifically with my partners, but mostly for romantic reasons, not due to any sexual attraction to their bodies
• I enjoy both giving and receiving when it comes to nearly all aspects of sex (oral, penetration, etc.)
• I tend to be the most turned on during foreplay
• While I do find oral and penetrative sex pleasurable, I have never been able to orgasm from them without me having to finish myself off (this may be an over masturbation issue unrelated to anything else though)

Thank you for reading all of this, it ended up longer than I expected. I really appreciate any insights or experiences you have that you wish to share, and I hope someone will be able to shed a little light on things for me.