Hi all. I have been spending a lot of time filtering by "new" (for some reason these posts don't get upvoted) and helping questioning people figure out if they are ace. I have created a master posting of the resources that helped me figure it out. I update this post to tailor to the questioners, but I have stated to think I should run it by you all to see what you think but also if there were other resources you used to figure yourself out, can you send them to me?

My master posting:

Sounds like asexuality. But remember that it is defined by feeling little or no sexual attraction. If you have not already AVEN is a good place to take a poke around

So let's define sexual attraction. It is the desire to have sex with a person. An asexual person is not drawn to people sexually and do not desire to act upon attraction to others in a sexual way. Allosexual people (non-asexual people) and asexual people can feel sexual attraction to fictional characters, when reading erotica etc. To figure out if you are ace, focus on sexual attraction in real life. Have you felt sexual attraction in real life? I had a hard time answering that question. The definition did not help me, it was more helpful to from people who experience it.

Check out the wiki of this sub r/asexuality and look for the "experiences" heading, there are some allo and demi people are described what it is to them. This subs wiki is pretty good, so take a poke around and see if anything jumps out to you.

Some find this tumblr post helpful though I think it is a bit exaggerated. My allo husband says the "body screaming for sex" sounds like a hormonal teenager or maybe just exaggerated, but I think it is still a useful.

This Asexual style AMA has some good tidbits as well

For me learning about the split attraction model was helpful and reading about the different types of attraction

Since asexuality is a spectrum there are many microlabels that may better define your experience. You might want to consider greysexuality, and many people questioning here are compelled (reysexual by aegosexuality)[https://lgbta.fandom.com/wiki/Aegosexual]

Ultimately, it is up to you to decide if you want the lable of asexual. Lables are tools that can help describe your experience, help you find a community and understand yourself better. If asexual works for you, welcome! If you decide later on it does not fit, that is okay too. You also don't need to label yourself if you don't want to. I hope this helps!

Good luck!