I (22f) confessed to my crush (22 trans masc) yesterday and they said have a crush on me too. I was soooo happy. I’ve had chances to date people but I’ve never been with anyone. I thought it was because I wasn’t emotionally connected with anyone. But this person has everything I want in a relationship. I told them I’m probably not ace, just insecure. They understand and want to go at a pace I’m comfortable with as long as we eventually have sex (they’re v sexual and need sex in a romantic relationship).

After thinking abt it, tbh the idea of it doesn’t appeal to me at all. I have no interest, and I thought I would after meeting the right person, but I just can’t. I don’t think it’s because I’m insecure. I’m so sad because I wanna kiss them, cuddle, and hold hands w them, but I just can’t entertain the idea of doing more. We’re hanging out on Friday so I’m excited to cuddle and hold hands with them for the first time. I just want to experience that with them and take it in, and then after we’re done hanging out I’ll probably message them that I’m ace. I’m scared they’ll lose interest in me :( I’m honestly even willing to let them have sex w whoever they want so they can be sexually fulfilled since I can’t do that for them... I don’t mind as long as they’re connected w me emotionally. But I’m afraid they’ll be attracted to the other person and leave me. I’m okay being their friend but who knows what will happen :( I’ll make an update post if anyone is interested. I’m sorry this is long but I feel so broken. I wish I could be “normal” but I can’t.