Is there a name for this? It's not that I don't experience sexual attraction, but just that the person becomes a lot sexier once an emotional connection is formed. Or, I could not be attracted to someone, but then become attracted after an emotional connection. So, it's not exactly demisexuality, since I can experience sexual attraction before an emotional connection, but it's heightened if there is a connection.

Is this just allo, or is there something ace-y about it?

I'm also not sure if what I wrote above actually describes me, but maybe it does. Even if it doesn't describe me, knowing if there's a term for it could be helpful to others.