So, I (18F) need help determining if I'm graysexual or demisexual because it is seriously confusing me due to the different situations I've been in when it comes to sexual stuff.

I've had sex before with someone I considered to be a close friend (19M) of mine and I felt somewhat attracted to them in some ways and in other ways, not so much.

The attraction I felt wasn't as strong as what I feel when I masturbate or when I'm with my current boyfriend even though I'm close with both my boyfriend and the friend I had sex with.

Also, when I'm with my boyfriend I also feel some attraction to him but it's not as strong as it could be (I've had instances where it physically hurt because I was so aroused) hence why I'm stuck between the two sexualities of demi and gray...

So, am I demi or am I gray?

(Hopefully y'all can help me with this and I thank you in advance ❤)