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How Does Arousal Fit in to My Ace Identity
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CW: I talk about people in a sexual way.

From talking to some of you here, I think I am mostly ace because while I find people hot, and even specifically notice commonly sexualized areas, it seems to be more sensual and aesthetic attractions, as I don't think about having sex with them.

The thing I just realized I forgot to mention is that I get aroused when I see someone hot. I used to think sexual attraction meant sensual and aesthetic attraction, so maybe I also don't know what arousal is either, but I'm meaning it as I can get an erection from seeing someone hot, especially when focusing on areas that people tend to sexualize (but somehow not a vulva, but the other feminine qualities of women, for sure), and my mind goes into a very different space where I am thinking about what I would want to do to them, but those things I'd want to do are almost never sex (with the exception of hjs and potentially bjs, though I have no experience with either).

Does this put this feeling back into the sexual attraction category for people or, since I'm not thinking about having sex itself, is it still sensual and aesthetic?

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