I don't plan on getting into explicit details, but I thought I'd err on the side of caution and mark this as NSFW anyway since I'm asking for advice on the sexual side of relationships.

I (22 Genderfluid) am Asexual and Aro-Spec and in an LDR with my partner (21F) who is Allo. I absolutely love her to death and she's been incredible and supportive this whole time. We've known each other for five years, she's known I was asexual since the beginning of that, and we've been in a really solid and healthy relationship for the last eight months. This is the first time I've been in a relationship and not felt pressured for sexual stuff despite the fact that she's ostensibly the partner with the highest sex drive I've had so far. I also want to clarify that I absolutely know I'm asexual and experience zero sexual attraction whatsoever. The very little romantic attraction I experience has been towards men and did not lead to any sexual attraction, and I'm not currently experiencing either of those two types of attraction. She's just, for lack of a better word, my Person--I know having an 'exception' is usually seen as a negative thing or being in denial, but that's the best way I can explain it. I love her beyond my typical boundaries of attraction.

I've never had any sort of sex drive before for a variety of reasons, including treatment I received from past partners. I generally was anywhere from sex neutral to fully sex repulsed, and still have genital aversion. However, I'd really like to at least try experiencing that level of intimacy with my partner, especially since I've started feeling favorably towards it. So, I thought I'd come here to ask for advice from other asexual people--and any people with asexual partners, of course--who might have similar experiences and advice to give. Absolutely all advice is welcome, and I'm happy to answer any clarifying questions or specify my hang ups if needed.