I recently had an honest conversation with my friends. We are women between 45 to 50. I am the only one identifying myself as in the asexual expectrum. Some of my friends are divorced and some are married. The conversation was about how often we want to have sex. I was expecting them to have much more sex than they actually have! My libido has always been very low, but the libido of my friends got low after getting married and got very low after having kids. Now they are happy not having sex for many months, some have not had sex for years! As asexual, sometimes I think everyone has much more sex than I have. This used to be true in my 20s, still somewhat true in my 30s. And it has stopped being true in my 40, because I just discovered that my friends have as little sex drive as me. When I came to terms with my asexuality (it took me a while), I thought I would have much lesser sex drive than my friends for the rest of my life. But now that we are older, they are happy staying a whole year without sex, just like me. It's a bittersweet realization, that I will not need to think of myself as asexual from now on.

Have any of you realized that the asexual label is less relevant now than when you were younger?