I am definitely sex-repulsed, and so because of this have assumed I am part of the Ace spectrum for over two years now. However, I've only recently read articles stating that such a thing as "sex-repulsed allos" exist and this makes me wonder if maybe I belong under that label instead. Could someone please weigh in on where they think I might land?

To give a little info about me, I'm a heteroromantic male. I'll provide a few adult details; I won't be graphic, but I think we're all adults here. Hence why I marked this post NSFW.

If a beautiful, attractive woman (let's use Chlöe Grace Moretz as an example) were to suddenly start talking to me, I'd be very interested. If she got close to me and started cuddling, yes I would get an erection. If she undressed in front of me, I would be very aroused and likely maintain that erection. But if she then wanted to have sex, I would then lose that excitement and the erection would likely go flaccid. I would not enjoy the sex attempt at all and maybe wouldn't even complete it. Even if she wanted to do something sexual other than intercourse, I think I would only have a passing interest. But if she just wanted us to lie in bed together and cuddle naked, that would be far more stimulating and enjoyable to me. And if we were to then spend hours talking about classic literature or our favorite episodes of Ally McBeal, that would be my idea of heaven.

Based on the things I'm describing, does this mean I'm not Ace?

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