So I (m24) have identified as bisexual since 14-15 and been out since around 19. I've dated quite a bit, but there was something about all my relationships that was missing. I always saw my partners as just one of my best friends which is that cheesy line everyone always says "date your best friend"

i realized within the last year or so that a problem i kept having was that I saw my partners as first and foremost friends, and this seemed to cause some friction which left me confused even my bff said to me more than once " you talk about your bf like he's just some friend of yours" and I looked back and realized I've never really seemed to have the same drive as everyone else to have a romantic partner or be in a relationship or why people seem so downright obssesive about it? And terms like gray, demi, or even full aro didn't feel right. I learned about quoi-romantic (btw i also speak some french so the term amused me at first) and it just felt like i found something i didn't know I was missing.

I know microlabels can be a little controversial but it helped me figure myself out a little more and be more comfortable with how i operate the "dating scene ". I've been afraid of openly identifying with the term though. More due to the reaction i might get from both people in my life and the larger community