I'm gray-ace, I have sexual attraction but very low sex drive and very rarely want to act on it, and I want to tell you about how one of my partners deals with that "very rare impulse" of mine

So my partner is amazing with understanding me, from the very beginning, they told me "I know you're gray-ace, so no pressure on that side"

What I didn't quiet know was that they totally distanced the concept "sex" from me, in the sense that they see me, and never think "sex"

Now, just a funny story, they are also pretty bad at getting hints, so the other day, we were making out and I had a little higher sex drive than usual, enough to want to climb onto their legs... now, we were in the back of their car

Days after, they confessed that that day, they actually thought that I just wanted to move to the other side of the seat, not climb on top of them

I asked why and they said they just don't get the hint even if it's in front of them, and that they actually find it easier to act as if I was totally asexual, and just not think of me that way until I tell them I want something of that, that way they don't have to guess or assume when I'm feeling like it and when I'm not

I totally prefer that setting to be the default and me having to "activate" anything else "manually" by actually telling them what I'm feeling like doing, but I didn't know that was their approach

So I don't know, what do you guys think? Is it a good approach to have for our allo partners? Anybody else has some other approach that works for you and would like to share?