Sorry it's late and this is poorly written. I'm beginning to realize that I may be aromantic. The idea of romantic love in the traditional sense, makes my stomach turn... increasingly so over the last few years. Now I'm not bitter or jaded. I've just always looked at interpersonal relationships with measured understanding.

But lately, I think romanticism as a whole is ruining interpersonal relationships. We are a society of instant gratification. Because of this we've replaced the natural human desire for community with romantic love.

It makes sense. From birth we are sold the idea that romantic love is the greatest thing any of us can hope for. We're made to feel like if we arent in a relationship or looking for one every waking minute then our lives are hollow and meaningless. We're sad so the problem isnt we need to take stock of our lives. It's that we aren't in love.

So we chase feelings and moments hoping that will fix us. But when those automatic feelings subside you're still left with your life and all the things you havent fixed. But romanticism has a solution for that. It's not that you need to work on yourself. It's that you're not in love anymore. The relationship isn't right for you so you need to leave it to be open for new love.

The hardest thing you can do is ask yourself what you really want out of life and pursue it. To put the right people around you and build a support system. But romanticism tells us that this isnt the way. It tells us that we must find one person to carry the lions share of our emotional burden. And that just doesn't make any sense to me.