Took me a bit to figure out that I’m just not into romance like society expects, and honestly, it’s been one of the most liberating discoveries of my life.

Once I dropped the idea that I needed romance to feel complete, I found my real passion: men’s work. I’ve been building deep, platonic connections with other guys—connections that are genuine and supportive, without the toxic masculinity BS we’re usually fed. Through men’s work, whether it’s support groups, outdoor adventures, or just real conversations, I’ve found a brotherhood that’s way more fulfilling than any romantic relationship ever could be.

And if you don’t identify as male, there are similar options for everyone. For me, it’s about coming together, breaking down barriers, and supporting each other in a way that’s authentic, vulnerable and safely accommodates my aromanticism.

Embracing my aromantic identity has allowed me to focus on what really matters—meaningful, platonic bonds with other men. It’s been a total game-changer, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

I’m curious to know what deliberate attempts at community you’ve made and how they’ve turned out. I wouldn’t say I’ve found my “community for life” yet, but I’ve had a lot of fun getting to know people in a non-romantic way.