I meet people, we like eachother enough to strike up conversations with eachother, if we keep talking and I don't grow to dislike the person somehow, then I start developing a crush and want to take things a step further. This is how it has always been for me.

I haven't come out as aplatonic to all my "friends" yet, no one knows but me because even though they are queer, most of them are poly or non-monogamous, pretty much all of them are trans, I don't think they would understand and and they would be hurt by such a notion. I don't want them to think I don't care, I do care and I enjoy their company....how do you explain to someone....a lot of someones that you've known for years, that you not only do not desire friendship, but have also developed a crush on them and would feel more comfortable/closer in a non-platonic relationship? And like so many poly people are uppity about how you should be attracted to someone, like a lot of people really do believe that if you don't want platonic relationships, you are broken or a creep who is only out to get laid. "The friendzone" comes up in my mind often and makes me feel guilty for even being this way, you don't be nice to people to expect something more from them......but like that is me in a nutshell and I can't change how I'm attracted to people.

Can anyone here relate?