I wrote a post a few days ago because my husband's ex was invited by my MIL to our thanksgiving dinner, and I was not really thrilled about the whole thing. Thanks so much for all the comments and suggestions. I wanted to write an update because I have a really happy update. I had the best thanksgiving, and I think I will be seeing less of Jenny in our future family get-togethers.

Most of you were right that it was my MILs thanksgiving party, and she is allowed to invite who she wants. She has known Jenny for a lot longer than me and has always treated her like her own daughter. The fact that my husband and she broke up did not change the dynamics between them. I was also wrong to expect my MIL to show me the same love since she has only known me for less than 2 years now, and we live in different cities, so our bonding time has been limited.

I decided to suck it up and (thanks to someone's genius idea in comment section) came up with the pettiest of the plan. We went to our in-law's place on Wednesday and Jack's parents were very welcoming. Jenny came to Jack's house on Thursday early morning to help her with cooking. I also was helping my MIL. Jenny kept on bringing up memories of when Jack and her were together and was trying to tell me all the habits of Jack that she found cute. I kept a straight face and smiled and also told her how Jack has changed now and how he he acts more maturedly and responsibly than when he was in early 20s. My MIL acted neutral, but I am sure she sensed the tension between us.

When Jack came down for breakfast, I decided to step up the PDA and gave him a long hug and a kiss. I am not really into PDA, and it took Jack by surprise, but he looked happy. I made it a point to sit next to him and hold his hand as much as I could. I could see it irked Jenny, but that was the point. I kept on asking Jack to tell everyone stories about our travels and the fun parties we hosted for our friends after the wedding. The whole family joined in and we had a fun time. My FIL made it a point to tell me that he has never seen Jack look so happy and how I have changed him for better. I kept up the PDA for the rest of the day and never left Jack's side. We had a great time with his brothers and they gave us a tour of their entire estate. Jenny tagged along, but everyone was curious about Jack and me and our new life together. Dinner was amazing too.

After dinner, Jack told me that he would help with the cleaning, and I should chill with the family in the living room. My MIL, Jenny and Jack were clearing the table and cleaning up stuff. That is when Jenny made a comment to Jack that I seem to be too clingy. Before Jack could say anything, my MIL defended me and told Jenny that we are newly married and in love and that's what married couples do. She also praised me and told Jenny how lucky Jack is to have found me. I felt so happy when Jack told me about all the good things my MIL said about me. Jack told me Jenny left soon after. She was supposed to join us to a trip to the town on Friday, but she cancelled, and we did not see her the rest of the weekend.

Overall, it was a perfect weekend and went so much better than I thought it would. I feel my anxieties got the better of me, but I can see now how much my in-laws adore me and treated me like family. I guess I should have been more secure about the Jenny situation in hindsight, as Jack married me, and I should not view her as competition anymore.

Again, thanks for all the advice and suggestions. I hope all of you also had a nice thanksgiving.

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