My aunt hosts Thanksgiving every year. She recently had surgery and asked me to do it this year. I was excited and told her I’d love to. I don’t have a lot of money but wanted to go all out.

Since it’s just me, I didn’t have many decorations or dishes. I’ve spent the last month couponing and scouring ads for food, decorations, serving pans, etc. I have to work Tuesday and Wednesday, so I got everything but the cooking done over the weekend.

Today, two and a half days before Thanksgiving, my aunt called me to say that we’d be having it at my cousin’s house. And thank god, because how would all fit in my “dinky” apartment (It’s an 1100 sq. ft. duplex).

I explained that I already bought everything. She said well, why don’t you bring the ingredients and give them to family members with kids. Because, after all, it’s just me and my dog. When I asked why she asked me to host in the first place, she said that no one else wanted to at the time. Maybe it was childish, but I was hurt told her I wasn’t coming. I’d just donate the food to a food bank.

My family has been texting me saying I’m overreacting by not coming. And that I’m an asshole for not giving the food to them. I told them all that I’d see them at Christmas at my grandmas house. But I’m starting to think that I am overreacting.