I recently did a 10k obstacle race and loved it, however, I wish I had done a 21k or 50k. One of my friends is doing a marathon in California and I said I'd love to go with him, upon googling things to do in the area, I found out that the same obstacle race is taking place a week prior so I told my wife I want to go do both since they are a week apart I have enough time to rest.

I also told her I plan on going to Yosemite National Park and many other places since I love hiking and outdoor, however she does not and she said she'll walk around or go shopping while she waits for me.

I told her that was a dumb idea because some of these hikes may take hours, I'll be camping in the car, shopping places are far from these areas and it would just be a waste of time for her to do that since she can't even hike a mile slick, let alone with weight and uphill.

She told me to tell her the dates because she wants to be with me but when she decided to go to Las Vegas with her friend I allowed her without questioning so I stayed home with the dogs. I told her she can stay home and do her school and take care of the dogs while I go do my races and activities.

She got mad at me because I don't want her to go, is because I know she will hold me back and she won't fit in since I have friends there that will let me crash at their place and I know she won't wake up on time.

She recently texted me she'll let me go alone if I want but not sure if she means it since when a woman says "do what you want" it doesn't mean do what you want.

Am I wrong for not wanting her to go with me and telling her that her going to just "wait for me" is a stupid idea?

Edit: I have done local 5k, 10k, and Half Marathons along with a small triathlon and she has never been there to show support, even after I do my race and get back home she still asleep. I ask her to go but never force her because I wanna give her the choice.

Edit 2: For those wondering how she will hold me back. This past saturday there was a fall festival and a reopening for a sunflower field which I have been wanting to go for months so last week I told her we should go. She agreed but on friday she decided to go to the club and drink which I was ok with because she told me she'll still go with me. Saturday morning she calls me to go pick her up from her friend's house and said to reschedule the sunflower field since she was hungover and that she would wake up at 3-4pm since the festival was from 4-9pm. 5pm comes along and she still asleep and gets upset when I try to wake her up so I tell her I'm going. I went and she still asleep. Since I had Monday off she requested it off so we could go to the sunflower field, she worked Sunday night but she told me she was gonna go with me and sleep after. She gets home from work and sleep, so my Monday off feels wasted because I waited for her. She always agrees to go with me but then ends up not going so that's why sometimes I am an asshole and tell her where I am going and she's invited but I will leave at a certain time.

So for those asking, I do not want this in my trip where I will have limited time and many things to do.