This might be a bit long because I want to include as much context as possible.

Ok so I need some opinions because I’m honestly starting to feel conflicted.

For some backstory, me and my ex were together about 8 months and I ended things a little over a month ago because I wasn’t happy and I just feel like we aren’t as compatible as I once thought we were. For reference I’m 21 and he’s 29.

After the initial breakup, my ex proposed the idea of FWB, but I was completely against it. I told him it was probably a bad idea and that we could be friends, but we needed some space before we decided to do anything. But after a long conversation he convinced me to agree to it. I told him that a lot of times I’m not gonna wanna talk and I will just message him when I’m in the mood to have a conversation with him. He was understanding about it. He even told me I can still tell people we’re still together (I didn’t, I just chose not to talk to anyone about it.)

Things were ok at first, but after a while I started getting irritated because he kept overstepping my boundaries. Doing things such as getting mad at me when I didn’t text him all day everyday. And whenever I did text him, he would just immediately start off with “yeah you didn’t text me all day” or “I haven’t heard from you in a while” if I went even just one day without talking to him. I eventually had enough and told him to knock it off or this cannot continue. We got into an argument about but eventually he just gave up and left me alone for a few days.

This past Monday, I was invited by my friend to karaoke at her house. It was for a friend’s birthday party. This particular friend of hers is someone I dated very briefly right before I met my ex (a month at most). Things kind of didn’t go well and it made me pretty sad, mainly because we were really good friends and I didn’t wanna lose that. But after a few months of being with ex, I eventually told him I’ve moved on and it’s water under the bridge.

My friend posted videos on her story and my ex saw them. Yesterday I messaged him asking if he wanted his shirt back today after work since we both work today (we work at the same place). He says it’s fine and that we need to have a talk. We go back and forth a bit because I’m not in the mood to talk but he says it’ll be fast and that he’ll drive to me. I say he has 30 minutes because I need to stream and get ready for bed.

Now this is when I feel things got a little strange:

When he pulls up, I go to his driver side window to talk to him, and he immediately just tells me “alright just get in the truck”. I say no and we argue once again. He keeps insisting that I get in the truck and I keep saying no. I then try to compromise and say I’ll just sit in the passenger seat and he says no, and once again tells me to get into the back seat. He specifically wanted me to get in the back seat of his truck. I found it odd but I stood my ground and kept refusing. He finally gave up and we talked.

He pretty much told me that he felt disrespected that I went to this guy’s birthday party because I vented to him a few times in the past about how things that happened between me and this guy, and about how it made me feel. I told him I went because my friend invited me and I wanted to sing and have a good time. He basically said that I should have refused because it’s disrespectful for me to attend the party of someone he doesn’t like. I told him that this guy has never done anything to disrespect him specifically, and if I want to move on from the situation then I am allowed to do that, because it is my situation to deal with, not his. I would understand if he actually did disrespect him at one point, but they’ve never even spoken to each other. I also told him that we are not together anymore, and that I don’t care what he thinks, I don’t need to explain myself to him.

And once again, I went because my friend wanted me to come, not because of him. The party was also being held at her house.

He then just got mad and I asked him what is the main point here because it was getting late and I needed to go back inside. He then says he can’t be friends with me anymore. I said that’s fine, and I gave him his shirt back and he left.

Literally 2 minutes after he left, he sends me a DM on instagram from one if those sad boy pages with a video of a guy saying things along the lines of “I’m sorry for trying too hard, it won’t happen again”. Stuff like that. He also posts a similar video on his story. I just read it and then blocked him on everything afterwards.

It’s the next day and honestly I’m starting to feel bad. I feel like maybe I was a bit too harsh, especially with blocking him, and maybe I made too much of a fuss about not wanting to get into his truck. I also feel like maybe I should’ve just texted him more when we agreed to be friends and not just when I’m in a good enough mood to talk. I don’t know honestly. I know I tend to overthink things a lot but was I justified? Or was I way out of line?