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Iâm 22f and my boyfriend is 36m. Weâve known eachother 1.5yrs but hav been dating about 4months. I love him so much. Recently his 2nd job (itâs less then legal is all Iâll say) has caused his paranoia to be crazy out of hand in my opinion. We argue constantly about it to the point of yelling and him kicking me out for a day or two at a time. His response to all questions are âcop questionâ. He hates questions so much, but only sometimes. One questions is a cop question, but the next day, same question is fine and answered immediately. It frustrates me because these answers hold no weight why does it matter so much. He just says he deserves his privacy and wants to protect who heâs doing business withs privacy. I told him Iâm his girlfriend and certain things are girlfriend questions. I told him I honestly think relationships shouldnât have any privacy. Iâm not going to and never have spilled his or anyoneâs business to anyone. Never hav gotten mad even when heâs hanging out with girls heâs slept with before as long as heâs upfront (he still does some business w certain exâs cuz money). Iâve tried to cut down on unnecessary questions that r just frivolous or out of random curiosity. But still the most basic things he wonât answer. Examples of cop question âwhat are you doing, where are or where were you, whose there or who is that or anything with a whoâ. Iâve told him I literally canât think of almost anything that he could b doing that I either donât already kno or wouldnât b supportive of. He says âitâs j the principleâ but I feel like thatâs crap. Why wouldnât he want to answer the question to exonerate himself or ease my mind if heâs not hiding anything? But no. What was he doing at a motel 6 for over an hour without telling me, the random âemergencyâ he waited for me leave for and left work early to go home for mid day w out telling me and got pissed when I found out, or why he said he was with his friend Mr.fakename one morning and turns out Mr.fakename was arrested weeks ago. I hate that he doesnât trust me. I can ask about his day because I like talking to him, but when you ask a follow up question about something related or to clarify something. Thatâs me âannoyingly answering a question with a questionâ or â Im âgrilling himâ and he âshouldnât be interrogatedâ or âbe forced to play 20 questionâ. When Iâm just trying to have a conversation thatâs more then j statements with my boyfriend. God forbid I ask what heâs doing, especially when he said heâd b home 6hrs ago on top of being unresponsive to text and call. IATHAH about privacy being a thing in relationships? Am I right to have suspicions and frustration with all this Cop Question shit?
Clarification: He is a plug and sells items. I never ask anything crazy personal or for crazy details, like full names or what/how much theyâre buying because I think that is none of my business and keeping plausible deniability is smart. All I ask is âwhere r u?â (generally what part of Austin) and who are you with/are you with someone I already know (I only ever ask for first names). If he canât tell me that or wonât say what occurred to make a quick drop last 3hrs (this occurs extremely often) yes Iâm gonna get suspicious and ask what is such a big deal youâd rather argue for a day then j say what happened if itâs ânothingâ?
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