My friend lives alone with her 5 year old daughter and yesterday afternoon, she calls me with an emergency. She asks if I can come over to babysit her kid cause she needed to drive her brother to the ER. I ask what’s wrong and she says he’s overdosed on drugs and they need to get him admitted. I instantly rush to her apartment around 5 pm and she takes off. 6 pm now and I text her to see if everything is ok. No answer. I also order a pizza for her kid and me.

7 pm now and the pizza arrives and we eat. I text my friend again to see if things are ok and she responds “we’re about to leave for the hospital”

“You’re just now leaving? Your brother lives 10 minutes away.” I text.

“I had to go get my mom to help but she asked me to take her to the store real quick for her meds.” She texts back. “Sorry for taking so long. We’re going to take him now.”

8:30 pm now and again I text and call for updates and get no answer.

“I’ll call you in a few. Sorry I’m very busy dealing with this emergency.” She texts back around 8:45 pm.

10 pm now and I’m starting to wonder where she’s at. No updates or calls. I text back.

“Where are you? Is everything ok?” I text. “Do you need me come get you at the hospital?” It’s getting late and I need to work in the morning. “Can I come to you and drop off your daughter? I need to get going soon.”

“No we’re good. We’re at my brothers place.” She finally texts back.

“You took him in and he’s already been released?”

“No we never took him. My mom placed hot packs on him and fed him and he’s starting to come down off the drugs. Thank goodness.” I’m angry but don’t want to be insensitive.

“Ok so you’ve been at his place this whole time? If he’s going to be ok can you just come home now?”

“No my mom says I need to stay with him until he’s fully recovered. Maybe in an hour.”

“Listen not to be mean but you’ve been gone for 6 hours and you never even ended up at the hospital. I’m sorry if your brother has drug issues but you need to come get your kid then if you plan on staying out longer. Can I bring her to you?”

“No please just stay there. I’ll be home soon. I don’t want her to see her uncle in this state.” I give in.

12:30 am now and her kid has fallen asleep. I’m watching tv in the living room when she texts and says she’s on her way home. Need to get her brother food.

Finally at 1:45 am she walks in with a bag of Taco Bell in her hand.

“I’m so sorry that took so long. You have no idea how helpful you were. Thank you so much!” She says.

“Ok but next time you need to find a different sitter. 7 plus hours to attend to an emergency is a bit wild in my opinion .”

“Well it’s not my fault. I’m the only one who ever looks out for my brother. My other siblings think he’s a drug addict and can’t be saved. I was worried about him. You giving me a hard time doesn’t make it less stressful.”

Not wanting to stoke the fire anymore, I say my goodbyes and leave. The vibe I’m getting is I was being too pushy in an emergency but am I wrong for being mad at my friend for taking so long or am I bringing insensitive?