Gosh this is so weird to be on this side of this specific subreddit. I didn’t think I’d ever be the one posting, but I truly am a little confused…

So I have to give you all a little backstory before I get into the actual specific part of why I’m here.

In the beginning of 2022 my dad got hit by a vehicle at work and ended up passing away instantly :(

As you can imagine it was a really hard time for me and my family and we went through a lot.

Fast forward a few months later- around March I received some of the inheritance money left to my sisters and I.

First thing that I had planned to do was go to Hawaii and spread some of my dad’s ashes in a park he would take us to. I decided to ask 3 of my close friends if they wanted to go too. They said if they could afford it, they would come with. We decided that we would go in June, only a few months away.

So we all were in a group chat leading up to the trip. Planning, budgeting, talking about what we wanted to do, sharing outfits- ya know the exciting conversations you have before going on a trip with friends.

I ended up covering the cost for all of our air fair and hotels, because I had the funds from my inheritance to initially cover it. Leading up to the trip I had mapped out all the expenses and what I paid, and what everyone still owed me- I am really good about keeping paper trails (receipts, screen shots etc)

I also had individual text conversations with each person to figure out how they would be repaying me back so that communication was 100

We ended up going on the trip, having a good time, and commemorating my dad all together.

Everyone since that trip has managed to pay me back all the money I fronted for the air fair and hotels except once person . I think 2 of them paid me back before even left for Hawaii, and one of them (will call her Kelly) told me she would slowly pay me back each month.

Kelly and I were super super close. Probably the closest out of everyone so I had no problem getting slowly paid back from my friend. In fact we had loaned each other money in the past with no issue.

Well fast forward to a few months ago (2024) . Kelly and I have continued to hangout and be friends. I haven’t received a dime… so I decided to open the conversation up about re payment. Mind you Kelly had bought two new cars in this time and also has been frequently going to the casino. I took notice and I started to get a little anxious that she hadn’t paid me back yet could go spend all this money. It definitely was something I felt as a friend I should talk to her about. The last thing I wanted was resentment in a friendship over money. So I texted Kelly asking if we could reopen the conversation about getting some money for the trip to Hawaii. She never replied and has since ghosted me. She is now telling our friend group that she gave me cash and has no way of proving it. Never happened . I know this to be a lie and have all the evidence I would need to get it back. I’ve accepted that I won’t and it would be more of a hassle to try. She’s lost more value in me than I did in the money.

Anyways I’ve since really distanced myself from that friend group and anyone who associates with Kelly. Just recently one of the other friends that went with us to Hawaii told me he still hangs out with Kelly and has no problem with her…. And here is where lies the issue for me. I don’t want to be around him or anyone else who knowingly will be friends with her after what she did to me. This friend said I’m putting conditions on him by making him choose, but to me what’s right is right and wrong is wrong loyalty is everything and I want friends with morals. Am I the asshole for cutting ties with any “friends” associating with Kelly? Am I the asshole for having “conditions” on who my friends can hangout with?