Ok so my girl wanted some space so I left the house for the day and started to work on a project at a friends house. We both use meth and we both have adhd I also have a TBI, schizophrenia, and bipolar. Well she gets mad at me for texting her throughout the day updating her on the project and how much I love her (we’ve been dating for a yr and a half.) well the project got late into the night and my Buddy offered me to crash on the couch and we could finish building the utility trailer in the morning. So I accepted.

Now our living arrangement is we have separate houses but I crash at hers on the weekends because I live on the other side of the county from her. Well now she’s mad I’m staying at my friends house for the night eventually we talk it out and I say “goodnight have fun with whoever” I meant her roomies and any friend who comes by for as she has ppl who stop by all night long. So I went to correct how bad what I said sounded and she hung up on me. (Now that’s a huge pet peeve of mine especially since I pay the phone bill for both of us I told her the 2 things to never do if I’m taking over her phone bill is to abruptly hang up on me or block my phone number, which I don’t find to be an unreasonable request especially since I’ve been homeless and jobless since all my stuff was stolen and my rv was destroyed in a natural disaster. I couldn’t live with her because she has 3 kids and 2 roommates in a 4 den bedroom house. However that phone bill was always paid by me with money I worked my ass off for. Well she not only hung up on me but she blocked my number my friend lives 2 streets away so I went to her house to resolve the issue I figured I go explain my comment and leave and everything would be better in the morning.

When I showed up and tapped at her window as usual when I stopped by at night rather than knocking on the door and waking her roomies and children. She came out with a shovel handle and started to beat me with it telling me to leave so I grabbed it from her and threw it across the yard and just said listen to what I came to say and I’ll leave and she refused and went to retrieve the shovel handle as I’m following her and repeating (babe, or we’ll call her Josie) please listen to me you’re mad at me for literally no reason at all I’m the one who should be mad right now and I’m not I just came to clarify some shit and leave.

Well now we’re in the middle of the yard yelling and fighting over this shovel handle and the neighbors called the cops so the cops show up and I have the shovel handle in my hands again and I give it to the officer and say this isn’t involving violence at all yet I was threatened with it but got it out of her hands and don’t want to press charges for anything. She says it’s my house and I want him trespassed they say that’s not going to happen if I’m willing to leave after they hear both our stories. They ask me about the marks all over me and I deny she hit me with the shovel handle and that that’s from gutting this trailer earlier before I came over or wrestling the handle from her to not be hit.

The next day she broke up with me saying that no one should demand anything from her and I see her point but im her partner she should listen to me if im saying she’s misunderstood and she said because of me she’s embarrassed to leave her house now because of me.

Am I wrong for trying to be heard in the middle of the misunderstanding and for fighting with her in her yard for beating me with the shovel handle like is that really bad enough to end a yr and a half relationship that besides this fight was a really good one without much fighting at all.

I think I deserve another chance to show her that I’m still the man she fell in love with just because I went off the deep end fighting with her and was obnoxiously loud during the argument but I said nothing cruel and I didn’t hit her at most I dragged her when she wouldn’t let go of the stick she was using to hit my face and my arm. I’d like an apology from her but I know I won’t get 1.