Hi,

I have a friend who is an alcoholic. She says everyday she wants to quit, has had multiple DUIs, been to rehab, etc. She has been given phone numbers, resources, the works. Yet she “will try to sober up later.”

Now, here is why I am asking for advice. I apologize if I sound frustrated in my tone, the reasons will appear later.

Every single day it’s “new day let’s not drink today.” And I am supportive. I ask, “what action steps are you going to take?” And it’s always “later or stuff.” Then it’s “I relapsed today” or “underlying issues aren’t helping.” When I suggest fixing them it’s “tried counseling for that not going back.” I have even gone as far as going with her to seek help. But she backs out always. It is evident she does not want to quit.

Everyday this routine happens. I feel like at this point I am wasting my energy and am mentally drained and done. I don’t want to give up on my friend but I can’t take this anymore. I give support she deflects and refuses to quit and asks for more support. I want to support but I’m tired and out of options. Please send advice.

Thank you.