This is my first public attempt to quit drinking. I have tried myself, to "just stop", but as many of you may know it isn't that easy. My wife grew up with an alcoholic father, uncle and older brother. She has little patience, and understanding of what that a person goes thru. Over the years I began to drink behind her back because I'm afraid of what she'd say. In 2016 I was caught by her with multiple half pint bottles riddled all over my back seat. This year has been a similar situation. We have 5 kids together and have been married for 9 years. She says she isn't going to leave me because of the kids, but I know she doesn't have respect for me anymore. Today I told her I need her help quitting. I can't just stop on my own . She doesn't seem interested at this point in being a part of it, she's just 'done with me'. How can I convince her that, although she's mad at me, this is a disease, and I need help to get better?

FYI; My mom is an alcoholic and my brother was a drug addict before overdosing on heroin. So this addictive personality runs in my family.