A friend of mine in AA relapsed today and relapsed a few weeks ago too. I got in touch with her sponsor and several “elders” in our home group to make sure that what I’m doing is the right thing to do. I know that my sobriety has to come first in these instances and what I’m struggling with the most is not wanting her to feel like I don’t care.

I don’t have an urge to drink and reached out to my sponsor about the situation, but I know the self doubt and the urge to reach out to my ex is strong. Not to lean on her but because I want someone to validate that focusing on myself in these situations is important.

I can’t 12 step my friend yet since she’s still drunk and told her I’d meet her for coffee before our home group meeting tonight but is there anything else I should do in these situations when a friend relapses?