Hi everyone,

I’m feeling really lost and could use some support. Today, while walking home, I ran into one of the doormen from the building where I used to live with my ex. We were together for 7 years, and I had to end the relationship because of his alcoholism. I tried everything to help him, but it became impossible when I found an eviction notice on our door. It turned out that the rent money I was giving him (since he was on the lease) was being used to pay off his credit cards. For two years before I left, he couldn’t keep a job.

The doorman told me that my ex was evicted, is now homeless, and has been banned from the building. He sometimes shows up and causes a scene by screaming at everyone.

I’m devastated. I saw this coming and tried so hard to prevent it, but things only got worse. It breaks my heart to see someone I loved so much end up like this. Despite the hell of dealing with his drunkenness and the way he treated me, I would never wish this on him. I know he has the potential to be a good person, and it’s painful to see him not realize that.

Has anyone been through something similar? I can’t stop thinking about him, even though I know there’s nothing more I can do. His family won’t talk to him, and they were already distant before I left. I guess I was the last one holding on, hoping for change.