This is not to shit on anyone's personality and criteria, I'm going to break down a lot of factors about our "hook up culture" " dating culture" and "filipino culture" I hope you can keep an open mind about the whole thing and feel free to share your thoughts in the comment if you wanted to add something :)

First thing that i wanted to address is the Filipino Culture Idea of a "Wife Material" One thing that I've notice in our mindset nowadays is that, if she's slightly "promiscuous", confident about her sexuality, skills and body is her whole personality and value is immediately deflated just because she has a lot of sex experience than some men or woman. Our Filipino Cultures tendency to look at the Wife Materials value is thru her experience and number of mate thru out her life. and if she has more body count than your hand fingers she's probably a dirty slut that's value is deflated and "undesirable" pero wag ka mag scroll ka lang ng kaunti dito sa reddit makikita mo na almost lahat ng guys na nasa "hook up culture" ang hinahanap is ung someone na makakapag turn on ng dirty desire nila AKA "the promiscuous women" diba parang ang hypocrite naman masyado? You look at a girl and you see her as a sexual being and you definitely wanted to fuck that but at the same time you can't see her as a "wife material" because she's too "damage" for you? Are you serious? What kind of beta shit is that?

This is also the reason why the "Madonna Whore Complex" is invented, because of stupid shit like this. And you know what unnerves me about this whole thing? Kase that is also why Cheating happens. Men cannot see their chosen women as desirable and cannot sexually turn them on pero they can see other woman as someone they can eye fuck in a mile away. Diba nakakainis? bakit kaya sila ganyan? Bakit they have to Marry someone na they think is a "Wife Material" kuno pero at the end of the day they are not happy kapag ung wife material nila is hndi sila kaya isatisfy kase hindi sila nag tatama in sexual preferences. Don't get me wrong hah? I'm not attacking and saying that the Wife materials doesn't have sexual qualities that can entice a man, actually they do! They have a shit ton of sexual quality that is desire and loved by other men! Its just so happens that the men who "choose" to love them is not satisfy with what they can give. If your woman can only do so much and you choose that then LIVE WITH IT. Bakit kailngan nyo mang damay ng ibang nananahimik na babae dahil lang hindi kayo sexually satisfied by your chosen other? Nakakainis kayo, tapos kapag nag cheat pa pati ung dinamay na babae fault din kase accidentally pumatol sila sa hindi nila alam na "married" or "in a relationship"

I think what is happening on their heads is that these type of men see their "wife material" as someone who makes them look good. Kase lets face it Wife Material woman in Philippine Culture is usually the demure woman, who dressed up well, usually malumanay mag salita and just a silent partner towards their husbands diba? she's usually the well put together Mother and a stay home devoted moms so these types of amazing woman is a good look towards them *eye roll* pero ang kaso some men take advantage these woman kase hndi kayo cn-challenge, anlalakas ng loob nila mag cheat kase alam nila na ung asawa nila kapag nalaman na nag cheat ung asawa iiyak lang tas move on na. Not knowing the damage they are doing to some ones mental and emotional health. I hate this I hate these type of men. You are not fooling anyone buddy. Shitty behavior will always stank, I'm telling you.

Which leads me to my other point of this post. The "Perfect Match" Every single one of you reading this IS a PERFECT MATCH to someone. What ever is your personality whether you love the weirdest thing in the world there is someone out there who will be perfect for you. It will always depend on what you are looking for and if You know what you want. No one should be judge base on the amount of men or women they slept with or how much body fat they have, Understand yourself. understand what you want. If you want someone who is loyal sweet and demure because you know to yourself na you cannot handle woman who is independent and strong then Go for the Sweet and demure! If you have a high sexual libido and hindi uubra sayo ung lalakeng hangang 2 rounds lang then find someone who can go out 6 to 10 rounds per day and still have extra strength to pull you out of the house at 10pm kase gusto mag bar outside then GO FOR IT! Bakit kase we see "promiscuity" as a turn off factor. Bakit a woman cannot be someone that you can Fuck in bed like a slut, you can disrespect in bed (with consent of course!) but still be your emotional support and the sweetest gem you have at home to call 'your wife' ?

To me your Chosen other should be your everything. Your bestfriend, your emotional support, your source of love, Mother and maybe someone who also protects you like your 'bro', Your sexy slut and your Sexual partner as well. Do not look at your Perfect Match as someone that you know will impress our Society, Just because she's a good look to you it doesn't mean she's for you. Just because you found someone Beautiful, sexy and Physically desirable to others it doesn't mean that she's the right catch. She will always be a gem of course but can that person excite you to go home at the end of the day? are you relief to go home to her because you know she will listen to all of your rants and can be your drinking buddies din kase gusto mo mag lasing that day sa dami ng problema sa office Or mas gusto mo umuwi nalang muna sa tropa mo kase mas perfect emotional support ung "Girl best friend" mo kesa sa asawa mo. see what I'm saying? Of course it doesn't mean na purket may asawa ka is kakalimutan and hndi mo na iintindihin ung friends and other family mo na naging anchor mo thru out your life but your 'chosen other' is your priority in a whole new level.

You chose them, they will be in your life forever ones everyone turn their backs on you. You should know how to chose them correctly. Also save some of us the bullshit. if you know na hindi mo kaya irespeto ung personality nya and her choices then dont bother us. There are plenty of other man out there na matalino at hindi kami titignan as a one straight line SLUT OR A SAINT. Love is not something you can define in one factor much less define by society. I should be able to be both a Saint and A Slut to my chosen other if that i what you are as a person, and if they love that then i see no reason why someone should judge us because of that.

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Yun lang rant over. Thank you for coming to my ted talk :D