These past few weeks that I've been in r4r trying to find my luck and reading some posts by men, I've felt very insecure and ugly kahit alam ko namang hindi ako panget even though plus-size ako.

Having a preference is different from being delusional, which is the case most of the time. Hindi ko na ie-expound ito because I know most people get me.

We have preferences sa itsura ng isang tao na gusto nating ma-meet, i-sex, o i-date but what I dislike about some posts is that they establish a beauty standard of being JUST petite or slim. That's it. Pag nasa bigger size ka, automatic panget ka.

Wala akong issue sa aking kapwa babae na talagang biniyayaan ng maliliit na baywang at slim thighs but it is so sad to see men posting as if nakakadiri yung mga malaman at big boned when in reality, hindi din naman sila 10 out of 10 sa sinet nilang "rating system".

On the brighter side, nakakatuwa yung ibang guys na welcome sa lahat ng body types as long as ka-jive nila. Personally, wala din akong pake sa body type ng lalake as long as may attraction kami and genuine person.

Sana lang when stating preferences, wag naman ipamukha na nakakadiri yung hindi nyo type or one is better than the other. Hindi naman porket mataba, panget na or unhealthy. I saw someone posted kasi ng "I prefer slim to fit women because they're healthy." As if hindi ka nagyayaya ng inuman and smoke sa previous posts mo kuya 😅

I do have a TA account who embodies an almost perfect persona and description. I created it to prove a point and social experiment narin and true enough, daan-daang messages at dick pics ang nakukuha ko dun, tapos kapag nanghingi ako ng face pic sa medyo presko yung dating eh mukhang.. hindi nalang ako mag-talk 🤐

Beauty is indeed subjective but let's not body shame anyone (kahit payat po naba-body shame din) and mag-feeling superior. Kahit sino may flaws and if you think na perfect ka, eh congratulations po sayo! clap clap clap

Tapos, halos lahat ng nandun nasa upper class kuno wala yatang nasa laylayan HAHAHAHA! Pero ibang discussion na yun and I'll post about it as well because I've learned a lot sa social experiment ko sa TA account ko 😝

So to everyone, lalake o babae, payat o mataba, average looking o gwapo/maganda, if you feel the same and napanghihinaan na ng loob na makahanap ng ka-date o FWB, lavan lang! Makakatagpo din tayo ng malawak ang isipan na talagang makakasundo natin in person at sa kama. ;)

Rooting for ya'll 🙌

Note: binura ng mods dun kaya dito nalang :)