I have been searching for a Dom for quite a while and apparently, I had the wrong idea about it. Hahaha. It’s not just about the spanking, choking and degradation—it’s actually a lifestyle. Hindi lang purely about sex.

So, I met my Dom (wow, label) via a Reddit post and we decided to do a vibe check before we do the nasty. He was pretty chill about the hangout. Not gigil unlike the other “Doms” who had slid in my DMs, “Doms” would ask me to do things na ayaw ko gawin and super kulit. Doon pa lang makikita na they don’t really believe in consent, no na nga sabi ko ang pilit pa rin.

Anyways, he initially invited me to a gig pero work was in the way so I wasn’t able to come ( but I did come naman once we got together, ifykwim 😛). Super sayang kasi I was really excited to meet him kasi it looks like he knows what he’s doing, so, I invited him over the next day. Super biglaan but he was available, agenda for the night was my do’s, don’ts, and maybe’s.

The first hour was pretty chill (we were drinking), tamang intro lang sa D/S lifestyle, defining terms, re-explaining misused terms, segue way to politics, religion and kung anu-ano every now and then ( the thing with hanging out with older men, you’ll learn a lot haha).

Here are my primary takeaways:

• one must build trust with their Dom, hindi dapat bakbakan agad
• one must do their own research, need talaga pag-aralan
• consent and clear communication is a must
• one must take their time in exploring their own bodies
• one can have a kink phase
• boundaries must be set, clearly
• safe word is must, still thinking abt kung ano safe word ko hahah
• it’s a process, hindi pwede binibigla haha
• intimacy and after care is important (am not really into this pero last night felt great)
• it’s a fucking rabbit hole, enter at your own risk
• might leave you scarred for life
• one can’t unsee the whole exp, hahanap-hanapin

We didn’t get to fuck when he came over pero he made me come with just his fingers and tongue, fully clothed pa ‘to ah. Paano pa kaya ‘pag tt na niya. Your boy is daks, btw. Kachoke-choke. Hahahaha.

Ayun, excited for our next sesh!