I tried to understand myself why am I so into gentle/mommy femdom thing. Like ung be-babyhin ako, will guide me through my orgasm and her orgasm, and basically the thought of telling me what to do and how to do it the way she want it and telling me how a "good boy" I am for doing it.

Una sa lahat, wala akong mommy issues. Hahaha.

But I came up into some conclusions:

The society puts most of the pressure to men. Dapat lagi tayong matigas. Dapat lagi tayong nagdadala ng relationships and all. As much as this is true, minsan nakaka pressure narin eh no. Diba kami pwedeng lambingin? Diba pwedeng kami naman ung maspoil hehehe. Dapat ba laging kami yung dominant? Kaya sa Pinas walang masyadong kaso ng pangmomolestya para sa lalaki eh. Kasi they don't consider it that way. Para sa ibang kinauukulan, tayo na nga minanyak ng babae eh. Dapat matuwa tayo at maflatter. What a bullshit mindset.

Reassurance. We need it just like how women need it. Reassurance kagaya nga ng pagtawag sakin ng "good boy". Parang may something tingly when I hear it eh. It's like indirectly telling na "you're doing a good job, you're doing well, don't be pressured, I still like you no matter what". After ng pressure sa labas, we need reassurance that everything is fine.

Mask off. Siguro eto na ung pinagsama sama. Most of the time we wear masks outside our world. Kasi nga may expectations sa amin. But if we dip our toes into the femdom setup, we can just show who we are and let the woman just love us for only what can we offer.

I hope I'm making sense and with the Law of Attraction and dasal, sana makahanap nako ng partner na into this setup. Kaya rin siguro birhen pako hanggang ngayon. Hihi.

Ingat kayo, lovely people of AJ! 💖