People really need to get a fucking grip about their sexual health.

I've made it a rule not to engage in oral sex with people who could not provide me with physical medical proof that they are STD-free. I also do not have sex without protection, at all costs. I usually communicate this before anything happens.

Unfortunately, twice now I've encountered men (one of them in the medical field) who would gaslight me and say shit like,

"Ganyan ba paningin mo sa'kin?"

"Mukha ba akong my STD?"

"Wala naman 'yang bumps eh (referring to the dick)."

First, it's not personal. I don't know you very well, and I don't know your sexual behavior. And in the battle between your sexual satisfaction and my sexual safety, best believe I will always bet on myself.

Second, fuck if I know if you have an STD or not?! In fact, that's the purpose of the test — to medically verify if you have one or not. Especially since a lot of STDs have different presentations and are also often asymptomatic.

Third, have you seen your dick? It has a lot of folds and crevices, and some bumps that may just be a part of your dick's anatomy. And I'm not fucking risking it when a dildo can fulfill the same needs without complaining about how it feels better raw.

Fourth, what the fuck is up with people in the medical field not walking their talk? You, of all fucking people, should know that STDs are infectious because they are hard to detect (without a test) and they often present symptoms weeks or months after initial infection. Some of y'all need to get a refund from your pre-med and med schools because it's not clicking.

It's also usually the assholes who surprisingly came from long-term relationships who insist they wanna fuck raw because their girlfriends let them and nasanay na sila. Tough luck, buddy, because 1) I'm not your girlfriend, and 2) your entitlement doesn't warrant indulgence.

Fifth and most importantly, don't go fucking around if you don't have the means to get tested regularly (there are literally testing centers offering it for free), get more than one piece of condom (like come on, at least get a box of three), or the guts to purchase sex essentials (condoms and lube) in stores. Cause how are you not ashamed of waving that dick in my face and get all shy with the cashier at the counter?

So get a grip, or fuck off. Some of us actually think with the head in our brains, and not with the one in our crotch.