Context: New here! I'm a plus sized bi woman, 5'3, 95kg and medyo tita na ang katawan and vibes. Almost doubled in weight over the course of 10 years because of my 3Ps: PCOS Pills Pandemic. Had a longtime relationship that didn't survive the pandemic. Had a couple flings since then but mostly unsatisfying. Alam ko na ayoko ng relationship ulit but still want an exclusive fwb na safe.

Recently nagkachat kami ulit ng isang college friend. We last saw each other almost 12 years ago and sya yung unang male fantasy ko. As in, before him mga babae lang ang nasa mental sex fantasies ko. Dahil sa kanya nalaman kong gusto ko rin pala ng etits.

Sinabi ko sa kanya na I liked him back then (understood naman na sexually). Nagreply sya na he was sexually attracted to me rin. Nagkausapan na rin about kinks and sexual preferences pero it was mostly objective -- not really dirty talk.

I'm thinking of asking him to be my fwb. Pero worried ako na 1) maybe mixed signals lang to and I'm misconstruing his messages as him being interested in just friendly sex talk, and 2) he'll be disappointed seeing/meeting me kasi anlayo na ng katawan ko sa nakita nya dati.

Push ko pa ba? Or should I just let sleeping dogs lie and keep this as a friendship?

PS may weight loss plan (gym nutritionist) na ako for this year, pero naturally matagal pa bago ako makabalik ng kahit 80kg. 70kg ang goal ko considering my body type.