I have a partner who does the thing when she has a littlespace. Please forgive my phrasing. I know literally nothing about this. For her it is a non sexual thing which works for me because the idea of that being a sexual thing is very triggering to me for reasons I don't wish to get into. I very much want to be able to indulge that side of her and to be able to care for her when she is in that state of mind. However I know nothing and my lack of knowledge on the subject combined with my apprehensiveness on the subject makes it difficult for me to start the thing or recognize when the thing is starting for her. I want to learn how to be a part of that with her. She is not the best with helping me learn. Is there anyone here who can help me learn?