Problem/Goal: How can I overcome the feelings of hurt and betrayal after finding out that the guy I’ve been talking to for over a year suddenly got together with another girl?

Context: I’ve (F20) been talking to this guy (M22) for over a year. (On and off kasi I kept breaking it off because of big fights.) Classmate ko pa. We were clear that there will be no other people involved. Exclusive, kumbaga. The usual landian, eating together, kind of stuff. He constantly assured me that he isn’t talking to other girls, and if he is, it’s just for school-related things.

This August, I saw this girl in his recent chats and had my doubts about her. Tinanong ko kung sino yun and he told me she was just a friend. Business partner pa nga raw ng kamag-anak niya. He assured me she was just a friend. This September, I found out on social media that he was dating the girl I was worried about while we were still talking. I found out about it because of a TikTok video that the girl posted. He had his back turned to the camera while the girl was looking at him.

I confronted him about the other girl. Got into hysterics. But he didn’t even bother answering my call or telling me about it in person. He just told me that “shit happens” kasi bigla lang naging sila, isang buwan pa lang sila magkakilala, at hindi naman daw siya nanligaw sa babae. He told me that he didn’t have the guts to admit it to me at the time, that they’ve only been official for the past five days.

He left me in pain. I cried and I cried and I cried. I couldn’t eat properly for days because of what I found out. The guilt was eating at me too, because I didn’t want to be the other girl, but he kept talking to me for those five whole days that they were already together and had no plans of telling me about her. No woman deserves to find out that there is another girl in the picture.

Previous Attempts: I blocked both of them on all social media. I ignore him when I see him at school. But sometimes the feelings sneak up on me at night when I’m alone.