Bf started acting cold after bringing up safety measures before doing the deed. I’m a virgin and I really want to do it with him.

Context: I (F27) just made things official with my long-time LDR friend/manliligaw (M29). We were college friends before he went abroad for work purposes. Nagka-ligawan na through chats, and when he came back to the Philippines last month, I finally said yes to him last week. We’re honestly so into each other—we’ve done some pretty wild stuff already (think car moments, momol, and, uh, some extras).

Now, we’re planning to take it to the next level during a staycation next week. TBH, I’m super excited na talaga, I want him to have me na. We’ve been talking about how it’s gonna go, and the anticipation is seriously driving us nuts.

But here’s the thing: this will be my first time. And kahit super close kami and friends since forever, I can’t shake off my anxiety about STDs and HIV. I know wala naman siyang nakarelasyon in the past two years (as far as I know), and he assured me he’s clean. Still, I feel like getting tested together is the responsible thing to do. It’s not about trust kasi it’s about making sure we’re both safe and comfortable.

I told him my concerns and suggested na no oral or penetration muna until we get tested. For me, it’s not just for peace of mind but also for our mutual health. After that convo, though, napansin ko na he’s been cold. No more teasing, flirty chats, or calls. Mabagal na mag-reply, and he even canceled our dinner date this week, saying he’s busy. Worse, parang nagpaparinig na he’ll be too busy next week—our staycation week.

Now, I can’t help but feel bad. Was it wrong for me to bring up testing? Am I overthinking this? All I want is for us to feel safe and confident when we take that big step, pero it seems like my concerns turned him off. Did I push him away? Or is this a red flag on his part?